I was talking with Kyle, a previous room-mate who admittedly has had some alcohol and drug issues. He sucessfully completed his rehab and I commend him for doing that as I understand it is very difficult. I sincerely wish him the best of luck as he handles his business with that. However we did have a good discussion; which is what I’m gonna share my two cents on.
Its interesting how people act, in the sense of how they more so react to a catalyst. Lets take for example a person named, Chris. Chris has consumed a drug which would render him impaired for a few hours and doesn’t want to go home [like pulling teeth to find out why] because his parents will observe his impairment and as expected, corrective action would be issued. I’d like to break it down a bit more; so Chris seems to be angry as his parents because they hound him to do tasks around the house. Chris lacks punctuality in doing them since its not given a high priority to do so. Then, his parents would yell, and then communication breakdown occurs. I feel the reason for yelling is because they feel Chris is not listening due to his inablity to meet their expectation of [task being completed by X:XX]. Then this makes it appear that his parents yell at him all the time due to the follow-up negative interaction. The parents at that point have the observation of being insubordinate. Much like magnetic poles, two of the same repel, and that is what we call communication breakdown.
If people just take a step back to make it clear of the expectation and consequences; there will be no surprises resulting in a yelling match. In that example, there was a few behaviors that tookplace resulting in communication breakdown: minimal listening, minimal executing, and minimal clarity in the instructions (expectations). So if people just focus on basic primitive behaviors when talking with parents or whomever; it helps them properly handle most situations in a calm, healthy, and rational manner.
Another example, is myself when I often observe exploits for mischevious deeds in any environment right away and question the opportunity whether or not to do it. Now, I cant tell myself “dont do that”… “dont push the button”, etc… since that triggers the behavior. I deep down somewhere have the will to do what is against the norm to have a mix between curiosity and attention. The initial need is curiosity at first; then changes to mischief when I have understanding of whatever it is, and wish to employ control. Then from control what am I seeking; am I seeking to regain something I lost? Not sure; but depends on the circumstance. So if I look at what void am I filling by doing a certain task, I can see what behaviors I can stop; and therefore not do them. For reference; I never executed any michevious act from my own curiosity. 🙂
Finally, I take away from this thought is that I may want to take psychology classes just to help me conceptualize all human psychology. Its always an interesting topic to read about, talk about, and even ponder when there is no distractions. Having a full understanding of the human psyche; better prepares onself for communicating to others more effectively by understanding different personalities.
